wow i really resonate with this concept of spite-driven goals and reacting to others' doubts that internalise as self-doubt and the need to validate oneself. here's to more clean fuel! my moment of reckoning was losing my dad, the person who shaped my relationship with achievement and inspired my workaholic tendencies. at the end of life it's not colleagues, press headlines and accolades around your death bed. its the people you loved and who loved you. i'm trying to lean into resources like the nap ministry to rewire my brains attitude towards rest and play. i want to ensure i have the right balance in my one short life! thanks for sharing ❤️
I started reading Rest is Resistance b/c of you and it's given me permission to rest and not feeling guility about it. Same with learning from our hard working and workaholic dads who had no other way to survive in this world besides harvest themselves for capitalism and white supremacy. I wish you an easeful new year. Thank you for speaking truth to power and all that you do for our community. <3
Oh my lovely bo...i was on that same treadmill for so long--the year before i had your class my whole system tanked and i found myself sitting on the floor of new seasons on division, crying, and voraciouly reading a book "tried of being tired?" because no doctor could help me, i could barely get through a day, all the things of strive-exhaustion--and it took years to recover (largely because of all thr trauma that then ensued...but if i wouldn't have been such an "i'll do it/i can fix this/i have to prove/get it right" striver, i might not have taken on those situations that became traumatic 🤷♀️. I am so happy for you in this new approach. You are lovely and perfect. ❤️🌺💄
Thank you Neva for reading and sharing your lived experiences so vulnerably. I can’t believe you kept pushing thru all the grief and trauma while teaching us! You are incredibly resilient and courageous ❤️🩹💪🏽. I’m so glad we have stayed connected thru the years and rediscovered each other’s writings. It really means the world to have you read and comment on my writing 🥰 You made me feel seen and validated in IB English!
Oh, and please keep writing 😉
wow i really resonate with this concept of spite-driven goals and reacting to others' doubts that internalise as self-doubt and the need to validate oneself. here's to more clean fuel! my moment of reckoning was losing my dad, the person who shaped my relationship with achievement and inspired my workaholic tendencies. at the end of life it's not colleagues, press headlines and accolades around your death bed. its the people you loved and who loved you. i'm trying to lean into resources like the nap ministry to rewire my brains attitude towards rest and play. i want to ensure i have the right balance in my one short life! thanks for sharing ❤️
I started reading Rest is Resistance b/c of you and it's given me permission to rest and not feeling guility about it. Same with learning from our hard working and workaholic dads who had no other way to survive in this world besides harvest themselves for capitalism and white supremacy. I wish you an easeful new year. Thank you for speaking truth to power and all that you do for our community. <3
Oh my lovely bo...i was on that same treadmill for so long--the year before i had your class my whole system tanked and i found myself sitting on the floor of new seasons on division, crying, and voraciouly reading a book "tried of being tired?" because no doctor could help me, i could barely get through a day, all the things of strive-exhaustion--and it took years to recover (largely because of all thr trauma that then ensued...but if i wouldn't have been such an "i'll do it/i can fix this/i have to prove/get it right" striver, i might not have taken on those situations that became traumatic 🤷♀️. I am so happy for you in this new approach. You are lovely and perfect. ❤️🌺💄
Thank you Neva for reading and sharing your lived experiences so vulnerably. I can’t believe you kept pushing thru all the grief and trauma while teaching us! You are incredibly resilient and courageous ❤️🩹💪🏽. I’m so glad we have stayed connected thru the years and rediscovered each other’s writings. It really means the world to have you read and comment on my writing 🥰 You made me feel seen and validated in IB English!